As we get older our amount of friends drop. We either see their true intentions, some move away, but the one thing my friends and I have noticed, when friends get married and have kids. It is funny how the friendship dwindles if you are single and / or do not have kids. Even with those that are married but choose not to have children.

It is like, Oh you don’t have kids so you won’t be able to converse with us! But it’s not our fault we haven’t found Mr (or Mrs) right to have kids with, or that we are a couple that have chosen not to have them.

It’s like they are unknowingly penalising you if you are in this situation.

Also they may not even realise the mental health conditions of a single person. That person may not have many single friends left to socialise with and may rely on those friends that are married with kids to be able to have a social life. So if that suddenly drops, they may end up having no one to go out with, or meet up with.

We do not mind meeting up with the children present. Sometimes it’s just about getting out and having company.

Even though my anxiety and panic attacks have improved, one of the triggers is when I have cabin fever and am in need of company.

I have personally had comments like you’re always doing stuff, it’s on FaceBook. Look closer – those that have a fantastic circle of friends do not put much on social media. Where those whose circle of friends has dropped due to no fault of there own, they are more likely to be online etc, as they are always waiting for their friends to ask them if they want to do something.

So next time you think about the friends you’ve not seen in a while or the ones you have hardly seen since having kids, make the effort to see them. We all have our own battles; they may have a lot more ‘stuff’ going on than you think.

It doesn’t take a lot to meet up for a coffee or even a walk every now and then, it actually may make their day.